So much of who we are is a result of our experiences from childhood and our lives from an early age. Whether good or bad, we learn from our past and grow from it. This early conditioning stays with us or comes back to us throughout life, to remind us how we became the humans we are.
I grew up on the unique and beautiful Waiheke Island, which some might say had and still has a “hippy” vibe to it. Even though my family was not this way inclined, I would still say that vibe is part of my roots and something I connect with, even if it’s only part of who I am.
You could say I had a fairly privileged childhood, yet my upbringing still kept me grounded and I am very aware that being spoiled is not a good thing, that money and status isn’t everything.
Perception. Powerful but very often completely blind. Things are very rarely as they seem, so to judge is not just ignorant but a waste of time.
Better to break away from moulds and standard formalities and discover yourself as truthfully as you can. Make your focus not on how the world sees you, but how you see yourself and how you feel about yourself. Having that mastered will bring far more satisfaction and gratitude in the long run.
Everything seems like such a big deal when we are young and I guess it is, seeing that’s when we are beginning to discover ourselves. Then you realise how much you grow on from these “big deals” and they do not determine who you become, but of course have an impact and you learn from the experiences.
It’s how you grow that matters. Growth and evolution is more powerful than any single event, because it empowers us with the knowledge that we can overcome almost anything, not only that but can mould our futures in any way regardless of the past.
I excite myself in knowing that I’m still growing and it’s only just the beginning of my “adult” journey. In-spite of whatever has happened in my upbringing or past that might be less than ideal.
It's sad to know that some people don’t feel this way, because everyone should. Life is simply too damn short not to embrace every event and make the most of it.
Don’t just spend your life chasing the idea of happiness. Find out what that is for you and grasp it. Make it a reality.
I look at my Grandfather. He created a very successful life, has all the riches. Now he has little time left, he talks of things like alternative healing, mindfulness, the law of attraction and karma - like these are the keys to it all.
He may have embraced these things previously but why hasn't he shared and preached these things earlier, to his children, to his grandchildren?
Wellness/happiness is holistic and it starts with you. Never underestimate the power of the mind, nutrition and connecting with your soul. In some cases it’s too late to change a preconditioned mindset, but not for you, not for future generations. Lets ingrain it in us, in our children. Start young, start now and spread the vibe.
I encourage EVERYONE to focus on YOU, not anything or anyone else around you, just YOU. Put in the work NOW and I guarantee your future will benefit from it. Because the simple fact is that you are the ONLY thing you have control of. What is the point of wasting your time and energy on people and things you cannot change?
At the end of your life and when you are gone, people will not talk about how nice your clothes were or what you looked like. They will talk about YOU, what you were like as a person, how you carried yourself, how you made people feel, what you spoke of, what you believed in, the things you felt strongly about and invested your time and energy on.
So don’t you want those things to have meaning and substance, to influence generations to come? Isn’t that the whole point - to have a purpose?
"So many people spend their health gaining wealth, and then have to spend their wealth to regain the health".
Invest in yourself. Your mind, your heart, your soul, and your body! Your wellness. YOUR LIFESTYLE.
I started writing this with the intention of it being “A little bit about me” so as you can see I start and my mind runs wild...I will have to work on keeping the focus. Bear with me...
At least what this hopefully has done (if not informed you “about me”) is given some insight into my philosophies and values and what this blog and The Boho Grove will be orientated around.